Thursday, December 1, 2016





Since before the election I have been spending less time on Facebook; not to bury my head in the sand or block out the "truth" but to create a health boundary for myself from the barrage of false information and abusive rhetoric being handed out by all sides.

The see-saw, back and forth attacks and complaining about each other solves nothing and shuts down everyone.  I can not explain loud enough or call anyone the perfect insult to help them see my point of view. Or at least realize that they are wrong and I am, of course right.

A hallmark of healthy communication requires that each side creates a safe space where each perspective can be shared and used to educate the other. Each person in a discussion must feel free to express their deepest ideals in order to have a chance at being understood, and accepted. This is how, as social creatures, we recognize and accept each other. Ignorance breeds fear and with it, hate. 

To those that say this is nambie-pambie or weak argument, I say just try it. Take the time, with someone you love who does not feel understood and create a space where no matter what they have to say, you do not react or respond, you create a place where they can feel truly heard. You do not have to agree with them, or even accept their position as factual, you simply listen and accept that this is their truth and their perspective on a very complex and personal issue.

Please post results of your Listening Energy conversation. Ill be listening. 

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